Psychology Is Love

There are many fears we can find these days in a human personality, these fears also have many disadvantages that a man who suffers from these fears will have to deal with. Well I think the fear which can be most hurtful and stressful is the Fear of Rejection. Now there is much kind of rejections that we can be fearful. If some classmates of a student are making a cricket team and they want one more bowler in their team and that student wants to be in the team but he is hesitating to ask them that he can join their team or not. Here some people would say that he has confidence problem, and he don’t have enough confidence that he can ask them without hesitating. Absence of confidence can be a factor but I think the thing which is going in his mind is that will they accept him or not? He is just afraid of the word “NO”. He doesn’t want to be rejected by someone because it will hurt his feeling. Now maybe if he asks them they will take him into team without even thinking but he is not going to ask because he is scared and afraid of getting rejected by these people. Some people when finding jobs also hesitate in interviews because they don't want to be rejected.

You can also take the example of a boy who wants to be friends with his classmate (female). Now a person who is scared of rejection will never ask her to be his friend because if he did he has a fear that if she rejected him the distance between them will increase. There is also a factor of hope involved that people hope that they have not been rejected so there is some hope left. I think we have to try to overcome that fear and say whatever we want to say to anyone. If we will not then we will have problems in socializing with other people. And if someone rejects you then you have to be normal with them. You don’t have to grow anger or revenge towards those people. Beccause I have seen some people in my life who were rejected by someone and after that they had a grudg against them.

When I started studying psychology in graduation (B.A), we study about Abnormal Psychology and in abnormal psychology we tried to understand abnormal behavior. The question which first comes to my mind was that how will we know that what is the difference between normal and abnormal behavior. The reason behind this question was that in our daily life we accused so many people of being abnormal and always calls ourselves normal people. Our professor taught us about the abnormal behaviors but they also tells us that there is no final definition with which we can say that this man is abnormal and that man is not. They taught us many ways of knowing which abnormal behavior is but if we ask that what is abnormal behavior the answer was not satisfying to me. The bigger problem was that I build a fear in myself that if I complete my MSC in Psychology and became a doctor then i will not be able to say that I know for sure that who is abnormal and who is normal.

Now when I started studying MSC Psychology From MAO College and 2 days ago I received a lecture from Dr Shabbir Ahmad Rana on abnormal psychology. Our professor was giving us an introduction of abnormal psychology. At that time a student asks the question which was in my mind for a long time, and I am also thankful to my class fellow that he asked this question. He asked that is there is no satisfying criterion on describing the difference between normal and abnormal behavior? Our professor replied to him by giving an example, they told a story that in the past their car started slowing down and there was also a strange sound coming out of it, so they take their car to a mechanic and tells him that their car is slowing down. The mechanic asked him that is the car also making a sound? Our teacher said that I was very amazed by hearing that and I asked the mechanic that how he knows that the car is also making a sound. The mechanic replied that it’s his work that why he know it. So our professor said to us that

"If we psychologist are not able to know for sure that what is abnormal behavior then who will?" 

And with these words i was rescued and I now believe that when I will study this subject (Abnormal Psychology) I will be able to tell the difference between abnormal and normal behavior. This was the first time I had no doubt in my mind about this subject and I am thankful to my professor for that. Now the most exciting this is that I will be studying Abnormal Psychology under Dr Shabbir Ahmad Rana and I think it will just be like diving into the sea of knowledge about psychology. That is the power of a professor that his little examples short lines can change a thought process in the student and give hope and courage to a student.